The Next 2 - 4 Weeks

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Hi Everyone,

I don't usually post but I have been on here since 2009

I am on day 11 and this year I really think I can crack it. I beat my personal best last year of, well only 26 days since I was 17. Now 45 I managed 36 days in November which was an achievement to me. The stupid thing is I only had a drink again because I got out a decanter I had in the basement, polished it up and bought a bottle of whisky to put in it, (which I don't usually drink) not only for display purposes but to test my strength not to drink..HUGE mistake. I ended up on one of the worst benders of my life!

I stick to eating a lot if feel the urge but as usual taking it a day at a time

Good luck to you all

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Hello everyone

Another Friday night. Usually I would be hammered by now but this is my third not! And it’s good. I have just two more days to go before it’s 3 weeks and I’m determined to make that.

As someone else said, I try to not think too far ahead as I find it a bit stressful so I look just a few days in advance just to plan in case I think there could be a tough time.

Sleeping: first 5 days was hell. Didnt sleep at all. Ended up on night 4 just watching Netflix all night and not even trying. Now I love it. Can’t wait to go to bed and drift off so calmly, sleep through and wake up relaxed and refreshed (unlike before waking up at 3am suddenly wide awake.when the booze was wearing off)

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Evening all.

My 22nd consecutive day without alcohol which equals my best previous shot at sobriety about 4 years ago.
Considering I've been a boozer for almost 40 years it's no great shakes however at this juncture in my life
I'll take it.

Got to agree with some of the things you're all saying about improved sleep. I look forward going to bed
and getting a good night's sleep. Best part of the day is laying in bed glorifying in another sober day and
drifting off peacefully to sleep. Zzzzzzz

If chocolate is getting you through this at present Advocado then so be it is what I say. As you acknowledge,
it's ok short term and probably not a long term solution but for now if it's keeping you sober so roll with it.
Perhaps rather than the 200g bars get 100g ones? And it seems you appreciate the healing powers of a good
walk so a few of those a week should help keeping the calories off. I've replaced my cider with energy drinks
and crisps which is not ideal but it's fine for now. The priority is staying off the booze and hopefully everything
else will sort itself out.

Good to see the 2-4 week forum getting a bit more lively.
I wish you all continued fortitude and courage in your journey.
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Hello Patrick, James and Smiler and everyone else reading. :)

Well done on your personal achievements youre all sounding really positive as you should!

Nearly 3 weeks James that is fab! I'm nearly at 2 weeks, in the early days each week is a huge milestone. :)

Its so much better now the sleeping is getting better now isn't it?! The first few days of sleep deprevation were pure hell. I must admit bedtime is my favourite time of the day at the moment but thats because I dont really have much structure to my day, not working until next week and feeling very tired after recovering from c-19.

But I'm not in isolation any more so can go for walks. Its snowing here so the kids are having a ball!

Congrats smiler on completing day 22 (::) and you're about to pass your previous PB in 4 years so that is a massive achievement well done.
Good idea to get the 100g bars instead. I got the 200g ones as the were on offer and I thought to myself I can just eat some and save the rest. But once I started I couldnt seem to stop! 😂🐷

Have a good AF Sunday everyone. :)

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Great you can get out for a walk now Avo and so pleased everyone is doing so well. Great job on the PB's

Still here and still sober. Passed the 3 week mark now and moving toward week 4. I'm finding I think about drinking less and less which is helpful. No cravings either which is very helpful. I cut out all sugar and carbs before I stopped drinking so not craving any replacements either. I've been carnivore for nearly 3 years. Lost the plot in June (lockdowns, working from home etc) but pulled myself together in December and got back on track on the eating front. To be honest though if it took a bar of chocolate or a bag of crisps to get me through I would 100% eat them!

I started reading I'm never drinking again: Maybe its time to think about your drinking by Trish Taylor which I am really enjoying. Anyway, enough waffling on. Time to start my self-care Sunday routine and pamper myself a bit and get ready for the work week and then I think I hear a bit of World of Warcraft calling...

Enjoy your evenings, whatever you are doing.
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Hi all,

Sounds like everyone is in a good place at present (::)
Read/saw something on TikTok today from a recovering alcoholic which made sense.
Someone had messaged them stating something along the lines of "I always manage
to stop drinking for a bit then relapse, I quit for a bit more then drink again etc"
It was suggested all of this is just practise for when you are able to maintain sobriety
for a more prolonged period or indeed if you quit for good. I do think something has
just clicked for me this time and perhaps my previous quit/relapse episodes have
been a grounding for my current sobriety.

Keep up the good work everyone ;)?
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Morning all,

Back to life, back to reality. Off to work after being at home for a month or more bar a few days between Xmas and New year where a considerate!!!? Colleague passed on the virus tp 75% of colleagues by coming in coughing madly when he should have stayed at home.
Great to see everyone doing well, things seem to get better after that first week dont they?!
I know I feel mentally stronger with regards to my relationship problems and I'm looking forward to going back to work (part time).
2 weeks today since my horrible blackout experience and haven't drank since.

Have a good day all :)

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I'm so tired and exhausted after my first 2 days at work this year (AF for 2 weeks) I'm currently having to have a lie down with one of my children non stop whining in my ear because we dont have any f-ing ice cream 😭 is the exhaustion because of the lack of alcohol to perk me up after work or is it just me? Or of course as I've mentioned several times I've just recovered from covid. Just wondered if the others on this particular thread have good or bad energy levels. I like to know reasons for why I feel like I feel lol 😆 I'm so so tired and its so so hard when dealing with young children. 😭

Hope everyone's OK 🙂

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I'm not going to lie i just broke my 2 weeks sobriety. I dont feel better I feel worse. Depression is back. I'm crying again. I will come off this thread now until the next time. Spoke to an alcohol support worker today who is speaking to a specialist docotor whos looking into my request at putting me onto a med I cant remember the name but its supposed to squash cravings. There's no magic pill as I've been told many a time but it could help alongside other therapies and of course me wanting to be sober which I really truely do.

Take care all, stay strong and speak soon.

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Avocado wrote:
26 Jan 2021 16:51
I'm not going to lie i just broke my 2 weeks sobriety. I dont feel better I feel worse. Depression is back. I'm crying again. I will come off this thread now until the next time. Spoke to an alcohol support worker today who is speaking to a specialist docotor whos looking into my request at putting me onto a med I cant remember the name but its supposed to squash cravings. There's no magic pill as I've been told many a time but it could help alongside other therapies and of course me wanting to be sober which I really truely do.

Take care all, stay strong and speak soon.
So sorry to hear this. Hope your okay. You've made a start and that is something to be proud of. Think of acummalated days sober rather than starting from scratch again.

Stay safe.

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Sad to hear your news Avocado :(
You deserve a big pat on the back for doing two weeks sober and so despite this set back
take some hope and courage from how far you have come. See it as not returning to square
one but rather a quick look behind you to see a side of your life you do not wish to pursue
anymore. Good to hear you've got some fight still in you (::)

Very best of luck and take good care of yourself <:)>
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I am going to add to this, I have just broke after 14 days, a weak effort. I work from home and with the lockdown, last night, I honestly was loosing it mentally

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Just about to start work so cannot stop long but wanted to share Smilers sentiments. I am sorry to hear that Avo and Patrick. Take the learning from the experience and pack it in the tool box so you can use it next time you face a similar situation. <:)> to both of you.
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Morning all,

Well there is only officially one day left here on this thread which brings me to wondering where to go and what to do next. I'm not quite ready to give up the daily support and motivation that I get from posting in a thread daily (if I can). 2 - 3 Month seems to have been quiet for some time and 6 month seems a bit far away. 100 days seems a countdown only type thread. Decisions...decisions... I have actually got 2 days yet to decide so lets see where we end up.

I've lost nearly a stone so far (6.1 kg for the non UK folks). Not quite back to PC (Pre-Covid) weight but getting there. I have been for a long walk... once. So not quite regular exercise yet but thinking about it.

Hope you have a good day.
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Hi there

So day 25 done here and going strong! Although not complacent as it’s the weekend coming up and that’s my main problem time.

Determined to do 4 weeks on Sunday.

I too have lost weight. 10KG now gone but I dont think you can notice and obviously with lockdown I’ve not seen anyone!

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Hi all

Well done Ali and James on the AF days and the weight loss (::)
I too was wondering where to head off to next Ali. I would presume it would be the 2-3 month thread?
It appears to be quiet on most of the threads from what I can see.

Weekend off for me as well James. We've come too far to throw it all away now. It hasn't crossed my
mind that I will get the cider in which would be my normal Fri, Sat and Sun nights. All seems a waste
of a weekend really. Think of all the money we've wasted on booze over our life time. Could have
retired by now.

Oh well. Onward and upwards.
Stay safe and stay sober ;)?
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Thank you so much for your kind and supporting words guys. The bright eye community always help lift me back up when drinking quire clearly makes me depressed. I'm not going to do the challenges anymore, or maybe I will it just just feels shit saying 'day 1' when you've been through hell and back and worked so hard to get to where you are now. keep posting i just need to find the right thread for me or I'll shimmy around a few different ones as i have been doing. I'm certainly still going for long term sobriety I have my dry January and beyond app so I'm collecting the yellow teacups and they're filling up January. Hopefully I can do every day in Feb, there's less days so I have a head start 😉. I'm listening to Allen Carr the easy way to quit drinking for women. I'm pleased as it's not repetitive of the original book which I though it might be so it's fresh and interesting to listen to and relatable. I craved a drink so badly today But I dug deep in my toolbox used the tools I found most helpful as of late and got through the evening without drinking so thats another teacup for me. :)
Anyway you're all doing great. I will speak to you all im so pleased for you all achieving what you set out to do. You must be feeling so much better than you did when you were drinking.
Patrick im sorry to hear you slipped off the bandwagon too, just jump straight back on it. Once you've broken your promise to yourself once it gets easier to do each day until you're back to square one. I had to really fight my inner demons today im glad I did. Now they know they won't win they've left me alone to relax in peace.
Good night all 😴🙂

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Hi all,
Thought I'd pop in and say hello.
I'll be joining you tomorrow,day 8 for my.
The longest I've been AF for around 12 years.
Not sure how I feel to be honest, a bit numb, but kinda proud of myself.

See you tomorrow all,

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Oh, I just realised I might be the only one here! :?:

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Hello 👋 is there anyone else around on here? Are you still around Mary?

Day 8 for me and I haven’t gone this long without a drink in years! I must admit I really wanted a glass of wine after work today, but a glass always ends up with a least a bottle, and I can’t give in just because I made it passed the first 7 days.

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