Please post here if you are planning to drink.

[Rags]

Drinking now will only serve to lock the emotional conflict in place Willbers. Try to concentrate on something else; make jobs if necessary, break the rest of the day down into manageable chunks and get through it. Tomorrow you will love yourself for doing so and perceived slights will seem less important.

You can do this

[Jaxom]

Wilbers - you said it yourself. 'Friends' not friends. I think they were being inconsiderate if not plain rude. So, they were at fault and there is no reason to feel inadequate or upset. You are the better person, not they.

Dave

[wilbers11]

I'm actually shaking with fury. I just don't know why I hang on to such people - I don't have that many friends so i keep thinking it will get better when I see them. It doesn't.

I'm really going to try and keep the booze at bay - its ok now as I have my son, but my partner gets home at 4.30. Thats when I will struggle.

Thanks guys - you lovely lot.

[Melanie961]

[gdtv]

xx

[wilbers11]

I think I just dwell on how people can be like that when I try try so hard to treat others how I would like to be treated. Why don't other people use that rule? It baffles me.

Melanie - I wouldn't have minded if they had ignored me - but my son? But i think these are the sort of things I need to let go. Holding all this anger and frustration always gave me an excuse to drink.

[Melanie961]

[wilbers11]

Hey Laura - I still feel really shakey - its weird I haven't drunk for three weeks but I'm shaking like I have a hangover.

Melanie - how proud you must be of your daughter! I am very proud of my son and the obstacles he has to battle. It makes me love him even more and I will not let these people drive me to drink.

x x x

[RedTears]

94 Days sober, longest ever in my life.. Set a goal of 90 which I have achieved.
Now thinking 100 days, for some reason I feel like having a drink now more then ever. If I do I am worried I will go back to being drunk every day. I thought it would get easier but just recently I am wanting to drink. I even started researching types of wine to drink when I get to 100 days - go figure?

In the back of my mind I want to stop drinking for good. This has been a life time (over 32 years) of trying to stop drinking so even the 94 days has been a huge achievement for me. I am one of those drinkers if it touches my lips I won't stop until I am collapsed drunk somewhere - then it begins its vicious cycle of thinking about drinking all day and drinking all night every night.

Once again I cling to my safety blanket this site just to empty my thoughts and read of others in the same situation as myself. It's a tuff addiction to kick, It is always in on my mind.

Hope you all keep trying; never feel ashamed of starting over and over, be proud of the fact you have the courage to give it another go. my heartfelt hugs and energy to you all.

[zoe]

Hi all,
I am back from the depths of drinking hell!

Taking about falling off the horse, I was 3 months sober, longest ever in my life than gave myself a light beer to celebrate.. Wrong move. Progressed from there to a full blow alcoholic, drunk every day, lost time nearly drank myself to death.

BACK sober 3 days starting all again. I know where you're at Wayne.

Hello to all the good souls here that give up their time to help others - loads of you, we all thank you for the on going commitment to others, you're true life saints.

Hope life is treating you all well.

Hi there RedTears, I wanted to look at a little of your back story and here's the post you wrote on the Abstinence thread last time you were here. I've found it useful to read my posts from the aftermath of my own drinking to remind myself what it was really like. My memory tends to play tricks on me so that all I can remember are the fun times ... even though those fun times were vastly outnumbered by the not-at-all fun times. It might be worth having a think about setting some new goals to see you through this period. Say 6 months maybe? Something worth shooting for I reckon. Good luck with it xx Jos

[Jaxom]

Absoloutly. . Redtears, if I had the excuse to punch the feckit button then I have it right now. I aint doing it. I have too much respect for myself. Get that respect. We can do this.

[RedTears]

Thanks for the thought Zoe and Jaxom..

Yes Zoe sobering thoughts reading that lapse

Jaxom looks like you and I started back on the sober trail around the same time. Glad to see you hanging in there.

I have set myself another Goal of 120 days and take it from there. I just can't see myself never drinking again - unthinkable at this stage, one step at a time.

I seem to be thinking about drinking a lot the last few days, not sure why. This sobriety really is a roller coaster ride.

Still hanging in there - hope you all do too!

[Jaxom]

Redtears, please forget about never again. It is too huge. I will not drink today. Easier and simple. Tomorrow can wait though I know what it will get.

[Jaxom]

Luvvy. Can we turn this around at all? You have had some devestating news but it does not have to be like this. I will be here 24/7 if it helps. You have been here for me through some grim times. Let me return the favour. I will not pick up that bottle and you do not need to either. Sorry. Nagging. Your choice, but it is a choice.

Dave

[CarolP]

Laura love. Can you wait a bit and have a chat

[CarolP]

Please take the next lift and have a chat with me

[Jaxom]

Laura luvvy, just tried PMing. Don't shut us out hun. I CARE

[Finley]

LMCB - Have you tried/can you try reading back over some of your posts?

[wilbers11]

Laura lovely - you seem like you have decided to drink. You seem quite certain. If this is the case please take care - please please come back tomorrow and post. No-one will judge, we have all been there, many many times.

Just wanted to reach out and say we are all here to support you. x x

[actress]

hi LMC

the reason you probably dont have a hangover is that the alcohol will still be in your system if you drank a lot last night

saying that you posted several hours ago so im guessing it will have kicked in by now and that you feel pretty terrible

do you think there is any physical dependence going on or is it all psychological?

i really hope you are ok, try not to isolate
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