How to stop drinking alcohol

Are you trying to decide if you should stop drinking alcohol? Maybe you’ve already tried a few times to just cut down, and drink more sensibly like other people seem to.

There will be many different factors which contribute to your alcohol consumption, so in order to stop drinking so much, you might need to address some of these.

how to stop drinking alcohol

It may be stress or anxiety, depression or boredom, perhaps social pressure or relationship problems. If you can identify that you often drink alcohol in response to some of these, then your first step is to look for different solutions to these issues.

So how do you stop drinking? The first thing to look at is:

Consider your motivation for stopping

Why do you actually want to stop? What are the consequences of your alcohol consumption? Weigh up the pros and cons of your drinking, the costs versus the benefits (write them down here if you like).

  • What are the negative effects of your drinking? Be honest here – look at your relationships, your health, job, self-esteem, depression etc.
  • Next what are the good things you expect to happen when you stop drinking, how will your life be better?
  • Finally what are the negative aspects of quitting? What is putting you off the idea? This is important because you will have to find some way to solve these concerns.

You need to be reminding yourself about this list of your motivations every time you think about having a drink. The next stage is to find out:

Are you physically dependent on alcohol?

For the sake of safety, if you are drinking all day from the moment you wake up in order to avoid your hangovers, then you will need some sort of medical supervision to help you through the detox. So if you’re drinking this much you should see your doctor before you plan to stop drinking alcohol. If you won’t do that, then you MUST try and cut down a bit before you stop completely.

So you’ve worked out why you want to stop, and if you can stop safely. Now what? You need to:

Develop a plan for how you can avoid those urges to drink.

Read our earlier article on coping with alcohol cravings first. It will give you a few techniques to help you. One thing’s for sure, will-power alone is not enough to stop you from drinking.

You need to work out what are your ‘high-risk’ situations, what are your ‘triggers’ that make you want to drink? Some of these can be avoided, so make plans as to how you can avoid them. For those that clearly can’t be avoided, you have to start thinking about how you can deal with them differently. Make your own relapse prevention strategy.

But what if things go wrong?

Ok, so it might not be as easy as all that (of course not), you may well slip and have a drink when you weren’t planning to. You haven’t failed, it’s just a mistake, you let that old habit sneak up and catch you unaware.

This obviously isn’t going to change over night. And realistically, this is where you might need the help of a professional. You will need to replace all that drinking with other activities, which means you need to set yourself some achievable goals.

The same goes for your feelings, learning how you can cope with difficult feelings without alcohol will take some time. Alcohol has been your way of dealing with everything difficult in your life, so you are going to have to find some other ways to cope, basically.

You should regularly review what is working and what’s not, what things are still tripping you up and most importantly, what benefits you are seeing. Remind yourself of your original reasons for wanting to stop drinking alcohol. And of course, if you find that you need some help, try a therapy session.


  1. PAULA 21 June, 2018 at 5:42 pm - Reply

    So many of these stories sound like my own..
    I have always been a drinker… I don’t drink every day but maybe once a week.
    I have no off switch.. I had managed to get it under control a couple of years ago and then my dad died quite traumatically and suddenly
    I feel like the drinking is getting worse because I’m grieving him still.
    My mum suffered a brain hemmorage in 2010 and is quite poorly and I care for her too.
    I feel like I can cope from day to day and just keep going juggling and managing my kids my job my bills etc and then bam… I have one drink and 3 bottles of wine later im passed out on the sofa and my fiance is annoyed with me again because I promised I wouldn’t do it again… I wake up the next day feeling awful.. my hangovers are the worst and i know I am damaging myself.. this time though I’ve looked up help… day one fingers crossed 🙂

  2. Rose 18 November, 2017 at 2:47 pm - Reply

    I drink around 3 nights a week. It’s usually hard liquor. I think I get bored, lonely and depressed. I do have triggers, my job is stressful, and I have a lot of responsibilities. All I do is work. I don’t think so have a big alcohol problem, but it’s been like this for years…and my biggest problem is if I get pissed off or if I am happy. It’s a toss up. I don’t like the way I feel afterwards. Tired in the morning, my body hurts, dehydrated, and somewhat depressed. I have anxiety a lot, and I think that contributes to my drinking, too. I haven’t done anything really stupid, but I have been told that nobody likes me drunk. I say things sometimes that upset other people, because I’m not thinking straight. Then I feel bad about it later.

  3. Mochsl 30 September, 2017 at 4:33 am - Reply

    I’m 65 and have been drinking heavy since I’ve been 15. I have stopped several times but best was one year in 2001 Other than that my best was 3 months. I want to stop like i did before but cannot seem to do it. I need help I think. Don’t want 12 step. Any suggestions?

    • Tai 9 October, 2017 at 12:24 pm - Reply

      I feel quite the same way, for me it was distraction. Keeping myself busy, doing and trying new things, just learning different things or just finding new people to talk to. Some times are still hard to stop, but that’s why distracting yourself in something interesting to you can make it easier to make a choice over the bottle. Support is always a great thing too look for too, and pairs well with distraction.

  4. Sirs 19 May, 2017 at 11:56 pm - Reply

    My name is Andrew, I’m 24 years old and alcoholism snuck up on me.

    From an early age all I can remember for the most part is termoil and anger, depression, self-doubt. And hate.

    Both of my parents are aggressive alcoholics. They never cause physical damage to me but the caused a lot of emotional stress.
    Waking me up in the middle of the night to yell and argue to each other about me, or about one another. Or too pick sides of who is my favorite.
    When I was just a young child 6-7 my parents introduced me to beer. My dad gave me one as a reward.

    But it never was a strong thought until I hit 15-16. Party’s with friends, high school football games. Weekend hangouts with the friends. A lot of drinking happened then. But it still wasn’t a problem. I wasn’t craving it, I wasn’t looking for it through the house. It was a weekend/ party thing.

    Right after high school my brother-n-law offered me a job at his production company. Where we have grown to become one of the best in south Florida.

    Moving to south Florida at first was hard, being away from home, the country life. Etc.

    But then I met a girl, and she was amazing. She was spontaneous, witty, just different in all aspects. And herself and her family are drinkers. They drink everyday, every night, brunch, etc. and that’s when it hit. I was 19 at the time and she was 22 so she was legal so she would get me drinks at restaurants, bars, events, everywhere. Likewise with her family. They’d bring me bottles of jack Daniels from cruises, or if there was a sale. And they let me do it as much as I want when I want. Which make me forget what an offswitch was.
    I’d drink half a bottle of jack every night. At 19 years old.
    But I couldn’t just stop, I couldn’t leave it alone for 4 days, and I noticed.
    Then we started arguing, I was ignoring responsibilities, nothing major but things that’ll make life easier.
    It got to the point where I was drinking all night after work till I passed out. Then she asked me to slow down. Which I did but it didn’t change much. I’d have 2 beers at dinner instead of four, then 4 jack and cokes instead of 6. And I basically just slowed down what I thought was normal. But it wasn’t. So she asked me to slow down more. Which led to more arguments which led to an altercation between the two of us after I got drunk with her mom.
    But she didn’t leave me after that. It got to the point I thought I was truly invincible. That I can handle it anywhere. Atleast a few. So I started doing it at work. I got away with it for awhile until I got drunk at an event and humiliated the company I work for and my brother.
    And they still didn’t fire me. Then I started drink then driving. And got my first federal affense. A DUI. And my family stuck by me and supported me. Yet I still have my hiccups. I drank on probation and my sister caught me. So I’ve lost her trust. And I continue too because I continue to drink. My family doesn’t let me drink at home so i find myself drinking whenever I can. Not to get drunk but too feel that lease. I’ve done nothing but break promises to my support system and myself.
    I’ve met a girl who loves me for who I am as a person and understand my condition. Now I need to come up with the willpower and passion to quit completely so I don’t lose my family and her completely.

    I was caught drinking before work this morning… because I can’t drink where I live. I need to get my priorities straight and fine a feeling alcohol provides without the alcohol

    • Andy 27 May, 2017 at 8:57 am - Reply

      I’m 48 and been drinking for years now I want to stop I’m finding it very difficult it’s ruining everything

  5. C.M 28 February, 2017 at 11:26 am - Reply

    I am going through the very same hell for 24 years now. Im 38 years old and I started drinking heavily at 14 15 years old. I didn’t realize until later that I guess I was drinking to cover up memories of abuse and a molestation that I blocked out of my mind. I even got hooked on cocaine for more than 10 years but cocaine was never my (doa) drug of choice, it was always alcohol. I even went to treatment once and managed to quit for only 3 months. Drugs and alcohol ruined my relationship’s I had a failed marriage because my hustand didn’t want to quit the coke and other failed relationships due to the circumstances and effects of drugs and alcohol. The latest was I met this amazing man who loved me unconditionallt and more than I thought that I deserved and I completely fucked up insulting him when I was hungover and still drunk. I feel just awful that alone just makes me want to quit even more. I never told him i had a problem with drinking either. And it’s not like I drink everyday I can go days but hardly ever more than a week or two without it. Lately I been getting really drunk fast off of less amounts and risked driving to the liquor store the other night even though I’ve already had a dui. I am an angry drunk when I’m alone. I do not know how I can avoid my triggers. It’s the night time it’s boredom it’s music or a movie or it’s because it’s a night off or the weekend there’s just so many. And lately I been saying how much I don’t want to drink but yet I keep on doing it and it’s ruining my fucking life. I know in my heart I’m a good person idk why we keep beating ourselves up inside. I’m praying my heart out to be able to quit because I know the only thing that can help me quit is with the help of my higher power. I’ll continue to pray and I’ll pray for all those suffering from this awful disease of addiction. Love & light to all of you.

    • Sara 24 April, 2017 at 3:02 am - Reply

      Hi my name is sara and im 32 yrs old. i kno how you feel, im telling my life story to a to a total stranger but if it helps u then i will feel better for that. i went throu the exact same thing i was child mollested from the age of 6 till i was 13 and they finally got the scum bag who did it, as it was a family friend and he eventually went to prison, but it wasnt until my mam died when i was 18 yrs old and that was my breaking point. i never thought i would lose my mam, she was life. that is when i took to the bottle until i was 21 n i was taken ill almost died, jaundice the lot but still i carried on drinking because u dont think it would happen to u but it really does.

      in fact ive been knocking on heavens door up until 4 yrs ago, until i realised it wasnt the drink controlling me it was me controlling the drink. it wasnt until i almost lost both my feet and got scars to prove it that i realised how selfish i was for the people id be leaving behind.

      4 yrs ago i found my brother in bed dead which almost killed me but there was something inside me telling me not to drink. my dad recently suffered a stroke and im now his full time carer. still im doing well, i lost my uncle just last week and still im holding strong even tho its killing me but what doesnt kill u make u stronger.

      im sorry for what u have gone thro but ur answer aint at the bottom of the bottle its still there when u wake up. i now go on 3 holidays a year, im with someone who loves me and i love with all my heart so please i beg of u dont let this addiction beat u, u are better than that. life is precious live each each day as if its ur last i say without drink. i hope ive helped u but if not ive tried. life is a lot better without alchohol and any drug and on the plus side u save loads of money lol anyway i hope i helped.

    • Anonymous 9 May, 2017 at 1:26 am - Reply

      Never give up – you’re a beautiful person..only need to acknowledge what sparks the urge. This is where the healing begins.
      Take care

  6. Joe 23 November, 2016 at 3:29 am - Reply

    My name is joe, I’m 29. I’m an alcoholic and I cannot find the will to stop. I was in AA, and was almost 3 months sober, but I relapsed. I’ve been drinking heavily for almost 4 years -a fifth to a handle a day. Drinking since my early teenage years. Since then I have tried quitting a few times since. I drink 24/7, mostly to avoid withdrawals, but most times it doesnt work and I just feel worse.

    My life isnt bad. I have a wife, a 3yr old and another on the way, and a house. I have nothing to complain about, and minor stresses that shouldnt condone my condition. Even with family health conditions – heart attacks, cancer and aneurisms, it hasnt affected my drinking. I’ll be dead by 35, if not earlier. And i still can’t stop.

    This isnt a cry for help. But if atleast I can help someone else with this disease I wouldn’t wish on my greatest enemy and help them find a will to stop, that would make me happy.

    • Jagg 29 December, 2016 at 6:38 am - Reply

      Try to cut back – I am planning on moving the beer to the workshop out of my house, I am trying to delay the crave by making myself do something for 30mins when I feel like a beer – Its hard, I sneak liquor and hide it – but I so want to change this also…. Everyone says NO ALCOHOL….But I feel re training yourself to have an alcohol free day is a big step…. good food, do something fun, watch TV and fall asleep (you made 1 day) – Try hard to delay the first drink and if it gets the better of you – do ask for help from a private council if you can’t talk with family….

    • tj 23 January, 2017 at 12:33 am - Reply

      Help me then.

      • Sis 18 March, 2017 at 3:03 pm - Reply

        Lets talk and be a support for each other

    • Radley 26 January, 2017 at 5:52 pm - Reply

      Man i am 31 years old and i know the way i drink its gonna be the end of me. Im depressed like all the time ,due to a rough upcoming an an unsupportive girlfriend of twelve years, but i feel like in a way that my future if i dont stop. I dont know what to do i wish i had a great time not drinking

    • Jay 7 February, 2017 at 7:25 pm - Reply

      Can anyone help me… I tell my gf I swear tomorrow will b the day I stop almost everyday. I wake up in the morning an need to buy beers or anything I can get . I have two kids. I’m not stupid I kno its wrong an everyday after a drink I’m so passionate about stopping but as soon as iv bin awake 5 mins I’m like… I’ll jus have one beer then I buy more . I’m trapped an feel scared to stop

    • Paul 27 February, 2017 at 7:08 am - Reply

      I’m Paul. I am such an alcoholic that I can’t even begin to explain. I’m 43 years yong, but I will dye from this disease. It a struggle each and every day. My world crashes around me every day. Just lost my job.The that is that I know why lost it. My drinking is all or none for me. My son was born a sick baby. He was at Johns Hopkins for 2 months from the day of his birth. I chose after he was home with us to start drinking again. I was sober for seven years. I thought I would celebrate my son coming home with a drink. He has been home now almost a month and I have been drinking every day. It just goes to show you that it doesn’t matter how long. You can just never forget how quickly your entire life can fall apart.

    • Andy 27 May, 2017 at 9:07 am - Reply

      I stopped drinking before and I was doing very well but all of a sudden it creeps upon u

  7. Anonymous 25 April, 2016 at 3:01 am - Reply

    I am 49 I am asking for help with my drinking anything to help me .

    • Tobin Hunt 25 April, 2016 at 8:52 am - Reply

      You could either join our support forum, or contact one of our therapists (both links are at the top of the page).

      • Akinjise joy 3 May, 2017 at 7:21 pm - Reply

        Comment…am need of help every time I am use to drink alcohol. ones I take it I started misbehaving so what can I do

    • Brent 5 May, 2016 at 7:06 am - Reply

      Your brain actually forms an electro-chemical pathway that’s not in your imagination, it’s real – it’s taken me years to realize this – when you repeat the drinking for stress etc. your training your brain for the desire for it to be second nature when you don’t even know it – a good race car driver repeats his skills to the point it becomes second nature and feels natural just like drinking – repeating CD’s not to drink every day for months will start to change your thinking to be second nature to stay away from the poison – there’s no in between – either stay drinking or look to abstinence – cross the line , it’s a life long issue – the original path way can be re-formed back in two days if you get suckered in to drink at a BBQ / Wedding / Etc. – you have to be aware all the time once you get that new thinking in place.

    • Anonymous 18 March, 2017 at 3:01 pm - Reply

      I am willing to be support for you. How can we communicate?

      • Tobin Hunt 19 March, 2017 at 9:07 am - Reply

        You can join the forum (it’s free), there’s plenty of people offering support on there.

    • Debra 15 May, 2017 at 4:20 am - Reply

      Try to make a goal to have one day alcohol free. I am planning to do that tomorrow and have a plan when I begin to crave alcohol I am 60 years old and work full time. The daily drinking started about 3 months ago and I am gaining weight. I am praying God gives me the strength to begin with one alcohol free day. Thank you

    • Andy 27 May, 2017 at 9:08 am - Reply

      Your not alone ther

      • Andy 27 May, 2017 at 9:11 am - Reply

        I’m in a bit of a state at moment I’ve had a drink this morning it’s not a top shelf drink it’s only Guinness but can’t seem to stop

  8. Tony 3 March, 2016 at 10:21 pm - Reply

    I used to smoke weed which frankly I don’t have a problem with . Well except since my baby’s mum went of rails drinking left our home and our child with me which I had no problem with as could protect educate and teach my now 4 year old who is amazing, but very much being subject to her mums drinking mental health and company she keeps since my child’s mum and parents one day decided despite my raising our child Untill 3 1/4 that they would not return my daughter instead accusing me of rape then assault then of touching my child all of which has been dismissed after being arrested and interviewed . Which in it self really broke my personality especially as for 7 months I had no contact with my child. Since being kept from me and my family the social workers and all these peeps are involved with my daughter who are on side having seen what my x and her famy are like costing me twenty grand in court with social trying to get her removed from her mum due to company she now keeps who just today Ian told have been associated with prisoners there for sexual stuff to kids. I’m beside my self and scared of what I could do to this person who sees my daughter more than u dowel fortunately not any more and I can see the light at end of tunnel I. Court but it’s been a year and still my daughter remains at this house despite social workers efforts etc . It’s killing me . My daughter did not see us for 6 months while being mentally abused by her mum and her family . She ses endlessly I want to see my dad I don’t want to live here but so far I’ve got a crim record for trying to protect my daughter and she still remains under child services radar at her mums address. I’m trying to sayso my hair IT may not make total sense but my life for a year has had no control of my four year old who states she wants to live with daddy but still nothing happens. Her mum is mixing with literally diagnoses scitso s with paedo associations who have recent ly been informed by a convict of such association. I’m tripping losing faith in the system and yes drinking heavily to block it being Helens to my o be cared for little angel. I’m scared what I could do and more so of the danger she is being subject to with no action happening of numerous detrimental situations to my daughter I’m going crazy . Smoking weed means a hai fucke test is require at court this three months no weed which is much better than alcohol and what is wrong with this world we live when such dangers are left un interviewed by authorities where children are concerned. Oh it was the police who removedydaightwr from my safe care and put her directly in this danger right before arresting me for these discusting allegations to which a four year old has been refrained from me my family ever since. My x gets legal aid I am twent k down which ent the point but the system is fucked up

    • I'dlovetoquit 16 March, 2016 at 11:35 pm - Reply

      I am so sorry to read your story.. I hope this all changes and changes soon.. What have your lawyers done ? 20 k is a lot to have this still going on.. Once you get your daughter back it would be best to move as far from these toxic people as you can get !

  9. I'dlovetoquit 2 March, 2016 at 8:49 am - Reply

    I drink about ten to twelve beers every day and have done so for about the last 12 years. Recently I’ve connected with my children who are not 44 and 39, yes, I’m 62.. Over the last few days I’ve been slowing it down to less ..
    I’ve always figured that since I only drink beer I’m ok. I have always hated wine and whiskey so I felt that alcoholics are just drunks.. Funny, but I never get drunk. However, I do drink beer the minute I get off work, I get beer and fill my coffee cup with it and drink on my way home every single day and I’ve done this for years..
    Over the next couple months I will be meeting my children for the first time, I want to make sure I set a shining example since they both have problems with drugs.. I will be spending over a week with them and I want to make sure I don’t drink a drop during that time… After that I want to remain free of this forever. Wow, just how the hell did I get to this place ? I have a great life, a great job and a loving family.. Any advice here for me. I sure want this to be successful ! One other thought, I think it’s great for us all to share these stories, makes me realize we aren’t bad people, just folks trying.. AA is out, I am a total non believer, I don’t want to hear about some make believe being help me, just won’t happen.. I’m a strong person, but I am concerned about success here..

    • Jim 23 January, 2017 at 4:41 am - Reply

      Did anything help You? I have a beer prob. Can never have one when I have access to more. Thank you for posting.

      • Andy 27 May, 2017 at 9:16 am - Reply

        I always have had a problem with beer can’t seem to stop

      • Andy 27 May, 2017 at 9:26 am - Reply

        Are u drinking now

  10. Andrew 8 February, 2016 at 11:45 am - Reply

    It is very comforting for me reading the stories in the comments. I am 27 and I’ve been a problem drinker since I was around 17

    I’m not an alcoholic but I have issues with binge drinking. I have no control at all when I drink and drink to blackout about 90% of the times I drink… And always have.

    When I was a uni student I used to heavily binge drink 2-3 nights a week, now that I work full time I binge drink once or twice a week but each time to blackout.

    I am a very obnoxious and foolish drunk although never aggressive. I always regret my actions when I’m drunk and over the last 10 years drinking has resulted in loss of friends, the loss of a job and lots of embarrassment. I have anxiety issues which are linked to my binge drinking. Sometimes I go on binges so I don’t sober up and have to live out the days of crippling anxiety that will inevitably come.

    I never really realised I had a problem until a couple of years ago and I’ve attempted quit drinking around 4-5 times but failed each time. I have accepted that I can’t learn to control my drinking so I need to quit. I have had so many events and milestones in my life either ruined by my drinking or I simply don’t remember them due to blackouts

    The hardest part is in Australian society there is such a prevalence of alcohol and there is also a high level of social acceptance for problem drinking – why is why I went on for so many years not realising I had issues with my drinking habit

    • SonjaG 2 April, 2016 at 9:07 pm - Reply

      I myself suffer from anxiety, so i get where you are coming from with drinking to keep from having anxiety.. I just want to be able to wake up and not think about should i buy a beer or not..

    • Glenn 29 May, 2016 at 3:05 am - Reply

      I can total relate to this Andrew I’m 28 I live in Wales in the UK and everyone does it, the Welsh are known as big drinkers/pissheads and it just seems to be everywhere. Always in your face, I’ve had all that lost jobs, friends, nearly family on serveral occasions, spent a month in Prison for fighting with a family member. I’ve been like it since 13 started drinking then escalated into binging. I’ve self harmed, been in numerous punch ups. The hangovers are death the anxiety, depression, paranoia. I quit for 6 months but lapsed now I’m like go a month or two off then I lapse and have a binge. The weekends are terrible always on edge thinking about drink. Even after all the blood, pain, tears and mental torture.

      • Andy 27 May, 2017 at 9:18 am - Reply

        It’s causing a lot of problems at the moment with my job and girlfriend

  11. Paul 30 January, 2016 at 12:10 am - Reply

    Been drinking for about 15 years now, had majorly cut back in the last 18 months prior to last year but have found myself drinking every weekend for the last six months or so. Often I don’t even want to but I somehow convince myself I’ll feel great if I do, and then think the next day, “Well, that wasn’t worth it.” I often convince myself with the words: “Well, you only get one life” or “Life is short” etc. etc. I’m still unsure if this is a good excuse or not. I’m not a bad drinker either. I’m not a loudmouth or get out of control. I’ll just drink and then go to bed. But in my heart I know it’s bad for my health, liver and mindset. My mother died of cirhossis of the liver and she was an alcoholic and I’ve always assumed I’ve carried on with the genes but seeing her die and knowing what it can do to you somehow fails to stop me. I went a good year with thinking I don’t need it, and somehow my mind has gone against me and said “Actually, you do”

    • Dave 2 February, 2016 at 6:38 pm - Reply

      Paul, one of the insidious things about alcohol is that it warps our thinking and we don’t realise it. For instance ‘Well, you only get one life’ and ‘Life is short’. Exactly! Far too precious to waste it on drinking which really amounts to doing the same old, same old over and over again. I wasted years caught up in the alcohol trap. Thankfully I found my way out with the help of the Alcohol Support Group here on the Bright Eye site and I tell you what: it was a long battle but worth it. Life is too short now for a different reason. There are not enough hours in the day to do everything I want to.

  12. Anonymous 5 October, 2015 at 2:08 pm - Reply

    Hi. My name is Jenny. I’m 59 and have been drinking heavily for 20 years. I lost my husband and my kids because of this. . I now have my kids love and respect back and have my grandchikdren. My son and his partner live with me while saving for a house. I have their love and respect back. But still I continue to drink. Now in secret. I am afraid every day that they will find out, I will be exposed again as the awful drinker I am and I will lose everything again. But I don’t seem to be able to stop. I get home from work and just want wine to dull the pain. I drink in my bedroom or in my study. They have already noticed. Please help me. I have to stop tonight.

  13. K 26 September, 2015 at 7:31 am - Reply

    I don’t really know where to start, but here it goes, I’ve got a real bad drinking habit, boredom, feeling sorry for myself, any excuse, my family knows when I’ve had a drink, that’s how bad I’ve got. Was in hospital in the beginning of sept, and I swore to myself I’m not doing this to myself again and putting my family though this again, it’s like I gave up on myself! I’m not stupid and I know what I’m doing, soon as I hit the bottle the “I don’t care” factor kicks in, I’ve felt so much better and clean when I’ve not touched a drop, I know I’ve lost everyone’s trust, the amount of times I have said that’s it I’m done drinking, I know things get tough before they get easy, I’m a strong person normally but the drink is really making me weak, unconfident, a liar, embarrassing, just like a evil twin of myself. I need to get back in control and sort this out, all I’m doing is killing myself and hurting people around me. X

    • mustafa 16 October, 2016 at 12:20 am - Reply

      man do not give up and keep pushing i am on the same boat as you, everyday is a struggle it does not matter
      how may time you and i have failed whats important is you keep trying.

  14. Bernadette 25 September, 2015 at 2:20 pm - Reply

    My husband and I have just decided to become sober – me after 2 years of drinking pretty heavily every night (2 beers and a bottle of wine, or 6-8 whiskeys a night, him more), both of us have successful jobs but he is also a bad binge drinker which has lead to some terrible events this last weekend which has made us decide to quit and straighten out. This is day three for me, I have the most splitting headaches the whole day (like a migraine?) and am so grumpy, edgy and angry and have had horrible temper flare ups with my darling 3 year old twin girls who don’t deserve it. Feeling pretty low about everything and of course can’t go and have a drink to take the edge off. Any advice would be SOOOO welcome please.
    Thank you

  15. Jeremy 24 September, 2015 at 2:34 am - Reply

    I drink between 8-12 beers every night, I need help anyone out there to help me out

    • Anonymous 12 October, 2015 at 8:38 am - Reply

      I have the same problem. I love the taste of beer as well as the effect. I am 54 and have been drinking beer for over 35 years. The answe is that worked for me was first off my Church family and pastor..I had to get evolved with a much better class of friends friends. I started drinkinf large amounts of water and keep it with me at all times. Try not to think about it and worry about it because your mind will play tricks on you.The best final answer is as Jesus Christ to come into your life and walk with you all the way bbrother.

      • Anonymous 28 April, 2017 at 1:19 pm - Reply

        Sounds like me I’m now 53 and at 13 had my first beer but over the years I’m grown to love the taste with my food or even better than water I’m just not liking the price of beer anymore I drink Coors light about 8 to 10 a day it’s getting costly and I’ve noticed the older I get my heart is taking a beating I don’t wanna quit cold turkey I’m in a pickle cause I can’t just drink one or two I feel your pain relationship Wise not a problem I just love the taste better than soda or tea specially with spaghetti and meatballs I’ve tried non alcoholic beer it’s ok but not for me bad thing is I find myself in the morning buying beer at noon and night until I go to bed it’s insane not much for meetings or counselling I do run my own business which makes it easier to drink all day I wanna be able to just have three a day until I eventually quit giving myself a beating

    • Jim 23 January, 2017 at 4:43 am - Reply

      Did anything help Jer?

  16. gregory 14 September, 2015 at 2:12 pm - Reply

    Hello I’m a 36 year old male father of two and married 6 years ago I started a real bad drinking habit I drink everyday hard liquor this weekend alo e I drank a 60 once bottle and a 26 ounce I’mn trouble my doctor told me I got a enlarge liver I need to stop not that easy doc I want to stop so bad I want to live for my kids and wife I try to stop one day then the next day I’m drinking again I need help soon or I will be in my grave soon can anyone offer me advice pls thanks

    • Agnes 19 September, 2015 at 11:17 pm - Reply

      Hi Qreqory, I will strat to stop drinking on 21 Sept 2015. Hope you with me together stop everyday. I know very very hard, but don’t give up.

    • Lucy 31 January, 2016 at 1:45 am - Reply

      Same as I am an alcoholic, but I want to stop so bad I’ve done c/t but get delirium tremors I love my daughter so much and I found my alcoholic fathers body at 18 I’m 36 to I love my husband 18 years together but I feel I will die soon litre of vodka a day no food also work in media high functioning piss head I hate this and I’ve pancreatitis from it , never been a nasty drunk ever in 18 years 3 rows over it I just pass out wake up then drink to stop dry reaching if I dint have a husband and a 17 year old I end my life

  17. Agnes 9 September, 2015 at 1:28 pm - Reply

    I with my twin sister 43 years old and have been drinking for 20 years. Everyday we drink over 10 bottle 500ml beer. Something voda, red wine. We just came back from Thailand holiday, everyday and night drink, drink, drink…… we cannot stop to drink. Please help. Someone can tell me how to stop.

    • Lucy 31 January, 2016 at 2:01 am - Reply

      I so need to know to know myself AA dint work for me , I am so scared I did have 7 years sober AA but have fallen off the wagon big time for 2 years . I work but I drink 24/7 top up every 2 hours .I love my husband so much and our daughter . Husband childhood sweetheart we never fight I’m not a nasty drunk in fact in the 7 years sober I had I was far more likely to be moody and so dependent and depressed its sucks .I want to stop so bad but the w/d is evil I feel like I am fracturing all over and in hell of DT,s a litre a day to stay normal !! Feel guilty as I honestly love my husband and daughter, at some points my husband buys me vodka as I am so suicidle without it – I no this is wrong but it anables me to carry on I have pancreatitis and I scared I will die AA dint work 12 steps 16 times really it was 7 years of 80% depression without alcohol, I gave in I started again now a alcoholic again that’s scared as hell someone help me or just share with me please

      • Anonymous 23 April, 2016 at 2:29 pm - Reply

        Lucy I understand. I want to quit but I’m scàred. It sucks. My heart goes out to you.

    • Andrea dyte 24 April, 2016 at 8:36 am - Reply

      Hi ive been drinking since 15 years old every weekend like the feeling of being out of control gone through rape abortion ….met men. That have been drinkers to it gives me a lift but i can get aggressive or upset people without relising or remembering . recently its moved on to black outs ,been to therapy for 15 months now on my next step seeing a homopath my mind is set in way to have one or two drinks at bdays or special weekend ,ive lost friends and relationships and upsets the family due to my binge drinking it seems to happenonce every 6 weeks ,rather than everyweek this my new year doin better got new relationship now , just dont want to muck this one up im on the new road now any ideas how to stay like this have had three blackouts in four months . Need to stop this binge drinking sure its all about boredom and self esteem

  18. Mike 7 September, 2015 at 2:10 am - Reply

    I stop drinking for a few weeks then I go right back to drinking I just loves the way it makes me feel that’s why it’s so hard to stop.

    • Anonymous 27 May, 2018 at 4:59 pm - Reply

      God I know the feeling

  19. matthew 2 August, 2015 at 2:16 pm - Reply

    I need help. I’m 24 and I’ve been up since 5 am vomiting. I only drink maybe once or twice a week but at some point I will drink and when I do I drink a lot. The worst part is is that I’m a mean drunk. I attacked someone last night out of the blue with no provocation and hurt him pretty badly. And for some weird reason I always get self destructive as well. I split open my temple last night and should probably get stitched up. But I almost always hurt myself when drunk. Why? Why do I feel like a piece of shit when I drink?

    • Clare 3 September, 2015 at 1:35 pm - Reply

      I’m so pleased to find this website and read so many stories like mine. I’m not addicted to alcohol and can go weeks without drink. However, when I drink, I have no “off switch” and will just drink and drink into oblivion. At such times my behaviour is indefensible, sometimes combative, sometimes over flirtatious. I hate myself for putting my family through this over and over again. Afterwards I want to run away from everything but know no matter where I go I can’t run away from myself. I need help!

    • Natalie Meacock 7 December, 2015 at 6:21 am - Reply

      This happened with me Saturday night. I attacked a guy just for trying to help me. I can’t remember a thing and the police had to take me home. The guy was so nice and all he was trying to do was get me home safe but I accused him of man handling me.

      I hope you are now okay and in a better state of mind?

  20. Laura 1 August, 2015 at 2:29 pm - Reply

    It would be good if people logged in each day, then we could get some on-line support going for each other.

  21. Dee 31 July, 2015 at 1:57 pm - Reply

    Hi Amanda, my name is Dawn, Dee for short. I have just read your comment, I am 43yrs old and have been drinking for about 20yrs, more bit by bit. I could explain my life to you, my e-mail is I live in the UK and if you want to talk you can e-mail me. Regards Dawn.

  22. Nancy 27 July, 2015 at 4:22 pm - Reply

    Hello, I thought I would share my story after I felt some comfort from reading comments on here. It’s terrible that so many of us are struggling, but it’s wonderful to know that none of us are alone, that we are all trying to get better and that we can try to help each other.

    It was my 32nd birthday this weekend and I ruined everything with alcohol. I blacked out and said some terrible things to the people I care about the most, I’m also told that I punched my boyfriend for no reason. Not that I should have a reason to do such a thing!! It’s all so much worse because I have had many nights like this before. Since I was about 26 these blackouts have happened, I’ve had more than enough chances to stop myself from getting so drunk. It doesn’t matter how long a break I have from drinking, how much I tell myself to be careful, how happy I am. Somehow, I manage to completely loose control, hurt people and remember nothing.

    I suffer from panic attacks and anxiety, although not as bad now as they once were. I am almost certain those disorders have come from my drinking or at least have been made worse from it. My childhood was turbulent and I have struggled with all areas of my life. I have achieved some things but I can only wonder how much of a better place I’d be in if I had steered away from alcohol. Not just financially but my life would be richer for having friends and hobbies rather than damaging my health and hurting others.

    I do not know why this monster manifests in me but I really need to make it stop. I don’t think I’m an alcoholic because I can take it or leave it but this isn’t right to behave in such a way. I am beyond ashamed.

    I’m very lucky that my boyfriend has forgiven me and I can only try to repair the damage I have done.

    I can go from drinking nothing for weeks to then going on a 2-3 day bender, not because I want to stay drunk but because my hangovers are so bad that I have to slowly come off else I fear I’ll die. (Part of my panic attacks).

    I’m disgusted with myself reading this back but I can already tell it’s helping me confirm my decision that I can never drink again. There’s too much of a risk if something within me takes over, how frightening and how horrible for everyone else this must be to deal with, never mind myself.

    If I can help anyone else going through something similar I’d love to, so please get in touch. Thank you for reading. I hope I will remain true to these words. Feels like a confession to be honest.

    Stay strong and safe, Nancy xx

    • Clair 30 July, 2015 at 8:14 pm - Reply

      Hi Nancy,

      I just read this and it’s like reading about myself.
      I don’t crave alcohol and can go without it, but it’s just so much part of my life that I continue to do it!
      This is why I feel like I don’t have a problem, but I am kidding myself.
      I have just received an email from my new manager, as I went out for dinner last night and got so drunk I had to be taken home.
      I am totally mortified – it needs to stop.
      I am going to start taking the right steps to moving away from drinking – it won’t be easy. But I have to get there.
      Good luck to you 🙂

    • Laura 31 July, 2015 at 12:08 pm - Reply

      Your story is so like my own, I was always uncomfortable in social situations, the anxiety would well up inside me to the point where I thought I would faint. So, I grabbed a drink, then another and so on…
      I’m retired now and I have become a solitary ‘secret’ drinker and I can get through an astonishing amount of vodka in a 5-6 day binge. Solitary drinking is probably the worst kind because no-one knows I’m drunk. I could fall down the stairs and lie there for days before being found.
      Today is my ‘day one’ I hope I can do it this time, at the moment I feel so remorseful, deeply ashamed and quite anxious. I’m telling myself it’s over and I won’t relapse again, but I have been here before, so many times.
      If I don’t get a grip soon I don’t think I will live for much longer, the toll on my health must be massive.
      I will check in each day from now on, good luck with your own fight against the demon drink.

    • Marjorie 31 August, 2015 at 4:57 pm - Reply

      Hi Nancy,my story is very similar to your’s. I’ve been scrolling Google for help and support to help me give up alcohol.

      I like you can take it or leave it,but I know it’s the cause of all the silly, upsetting behaviour and blackouts and it needs to stop! Even my 27 year old son has said ” some people shouldn’t drink and you’re one of them ”

      So, today,I am deciding to stop,I have a big wedding to go to and we are away for 2 nights,but I’m determined not to have alcohol.

      I don’t know how this site/page works? But thank you all for it being here and you’re support and stories

      • Tobin Hunt 31 August, 2015 at 5:03 pm - Reply

        There’s a support forum on this site too, if you’re interested – see the link at the top right of the page, or access it here.

        • J s 18 March, 2017 at 8:31 pm - Reply

          Please help I. I’ve been battling with alcohism for the last 4 years x

  23. John 25 July, 2015 at 7:35 am - Reply

    I have been visiting this site for many years, I have been a heavy drinker for 25+ years and drinking spirits heavily for the last ten or so. I haven’t posted for a long time, but thought it was about time I shared a bit of knowledge that may be beneficial to folks out there.

    During my last visit to the docs following my annual LFT (which believe it or not was not as bad as I expected), It was suggested I try a new counselling service in our area that actually has a proven track record for helping people with addiction problems.
    To cut a long story short, after a few visits to understand my background and reasons for drinking etc., they told me that counselling and will power alone would NEVER work for me (have failed at it so many times) and that I needed all of those plus medication.
    For the medications to have a chance of working you have to detox prior to taking them. Rather than go through their programme, I went through the pain of detoxing myself, though I do recommend you get help for this, but personally I have done it so many times, I just go through 3-4 days of hell to get it over with.
    They then prescribed Campral (Acamprrosate) and Antabuse (Disulfram). The Campral reduces the cravings and the Antabuse makes you physically ill if you take alcohol.

    It has been an absolute revelation for me after all these years, touch wood I am coming up to 6 months on the medication and have been totally alcohol free. The Campral definitely reduced my cravings after only 2-3 days and the Antabuse DOES work, just half a unit or so and you feel really ill (nausea, palpitations,hot flushes etc.) worse than any hangover or detox trust me. The beauty is that once it is in your system the effects last for a couple of weeks, so you can’t just not take a tablet for a day and drink the next, you would have to be off them for a fortnight before you were able to drink again without being violently ill.
    You do need a friend or partner to make 100% sure you take the tablets daily, but once they are in your system, you just can’t drink – no iffs or buts.

    It may not work for everyone, but touch wood, it is what I needed after all these years of struggling with self help and counselling. Why not go and see your doc and give it a try, what have you got to lose?

  24. Laura 23 July, 2015 at 9:33 am - Reply

    Amanda…There are clearly deeply psychological reasons for your drinking, which you should explore in depth, before the alcohol becomes an inescapable part of your daily routine.
    How do you stop drinking? Well, the answer is so obvious that I’m almost embarrassed to say it; ‘simply DON’T take that first drink.’ And don’t buy a bottle to take home, don’t go to places where you will be offered alcohol, and acknowledge that life without alcohol is a whole lot better than being pitifully drunk and filled with remorse and regret.

  25. Amanda 19 July, 2015 at 2:20 pm - Reply

    Hi there,

    I woke up this morning after another binge, I downed a bottle of wine and took a handful of sleeping pills and my thighs were cut up. I found my scarf tied to my treadmill, clearly I had tried something there. I do not remember any of this. The last thing I remember was feeling good. This has happened several times now.

    I have overdosed 5 x in my life and only when blackout drunk. I have been arrested a couple of times and made to go to therapy. Nothing helps. I have cut myself so many times I have lost count. Including a large and very deep cut on my thigh from 18 months ago and twelve months ago when I slit my wrist, in front of my then partner (while heavily drunk during a break up argument). Obviously attention seeking but it was deep, I had hit a vein and was rushed to emergency. I have found the scar on my wrist very, very difficult to deal with and it is a constant reminder of my failed life and the things I have lost, the people I have hurt and instead of making me stop drinking it makes me want to drink to feel better, which obviously leads to black out and hurting myself more (last night was the first time I have cut myself since the wrist episode 12 mths ago – I was proud of that).

    I can go out for dinner and have one drink and go home and that’s it. I feel satisfied and don’t need more. But when I am isolated, feeling alone, or let down, depressed.. drinking is my go to. I’m lonely. I always have been. I have a few friends but not close friends. I have just lost my job, I am single at 32yo and I feel like I have nothing going for me. I know eliminating the drink would help but I am not sure what I will do with the negative feelings I experience on a daily basis and my mood swings (I think I might have BPD). Or how to manage that without medication as I do not believe in medication.

    My childhood was horrendous, my teen years were worse (bullying). I have been in many failed abusive relationships. It feels like there is no end in sight and this is my life. I have a love/hate relationship with alcohol. I do believe it has ruined my life in many ways. But I feel like I can’t get by without it, as in.. what would life without alcohol be like? I can’t imagine sitting there with other “normal” people socialising without a drink as it’s the norm. I know I can drink with others and limit myself (has to be over dinner however) but it’s this binge drinking alone. It used to happen once or twice a month. But recently since losing my job, I have been drunk 4 x a week. Not good at all. I have no idea what to do. I am just bored and miserable. I have been to alcohol groups before and they asked me to complete tests and tell them my story which I did in great detail. They said I was a classic alcohol abuser (binge drinker) and that it is possible to limit myself and that I could do it.

    What are your thoughts? I have had two other therapists tell me the same that I am not an alcoholic (I was convinced I was) but an abuser who needs to eliminate the binging and limit social drinks to no more than two. I want to do that, I want to stop drinking alone and only drink over dinner with friends. Because, I think if completely deprived I will have another binge. In fact I know I will.


    • Jonski 12 September, 2015 at 3:21 pm - Reply

      Amanda, I have no reason to write to you and have NEVER written to another soul, EVER but i have to say I feel what you are going through. In no way do I dismiss your pain or trivialise your situation, everyones battle is different but there are things that bind us as humans which is what I can reconcile. I am intoxicated now as I write this, I wish I wasnt but such is my lot. If you are anything like me, you want to stop but its never that easy. I love my family and friends but they could never understand and have been dismissive of me should I react to them in drink or try to rationalise in a moment of sobriety. My father had me young and I grew up being told that my role was to be the right age to drink with my Dad, and on my 18th birthday I spent the day with my dad fulling my aforementioned destiny. From then I fond myself here. Few find this an appealing story but it was all I knew considering my Dad shaped no other life for me, Whoah, maybe I come across as a full time drunk? Truth be told I am only a social drinker (or so I told myself) but I like most on this forum find it very difficult to restrict my intake. Circumstances as they are, and in retrospect I drink to dull my mind. In other words I struggle with the mundane and critical alike. People expect of me so I give them what they need but that in turn drains me further and therefore I check out. I wish only the best for you and me alike.
      Stay strong.

    • ryan 12 January, 2016 at 3:41 am - Reply

      Hi amanda im sorry to hear about all the pain you are going through, i too have experienced some horrendous events during a binge. i am 38 now and stopped drinking at 35 with a few slip ups but found that the good stuff only happens after you get sober, i would be very careful about listening to people passing judgement who have not experienced the same horrors as us and advising 1 or 2 drinks as i made this mistake which set in motion a chain of events that nearly killed me, i think do it for yourself and your own piece of mind but i had to be completely sober 1 drink was to much for me, iv been at the point where you think there is no hope but if you hang on tight there is and life gets great, stay sober and one day youll wake up and think thank fuk thats over, stay safe n well please

    • Lucy 31 January, 2016 at 2:09 am - Reply

      pls talk to me as what you have written could be my story to , feel so low hate being alcoholic, sending hugs from Lucy

  26. Savannah 19 July, 2015 at 11:26 am - Reply

    I am so ashamed of myself. I can’t stop drinking, and can only go a day without it if I’m hungover. Yesterday, I put away over half a bottle of wine, two cocktails, and two beers all within a three and a half hour period. I think about my next drink all the time. I don’t know how to stop. I’ve gained a considerable amount of weight, and I can tell my husband is so disappointed in my habit. I feel disgusting. I don’t know what to do anymore. We have also been trying to have a baby, and I’m sure this is contributing to me not getting pregnant. I need help and just can’t seem to stop.

    • Me: TJ 21 July, 2015 at 5:27 pm - Reply

      If anyone needs help or support here, I’m here to help you out. I’ll text, chat, do whatever to help in anyway I can. I’m not here to pick up girls. I see you all might need a Long distance friend to help you and listen.

  27. Laura 8 July, 2015 at 9:41 am - Reply

    I’m just coming round after a 6 day binge during which I put away 6 bottles of vodka and some beer, I always drink alone and don’t eat much and the worst thing is getting rid of all the empties. I’m so ashamed and doing serious damage to my health, I’m 67 now and feeling the bad effects of the poison.
    I will probably stay dry for a week and then go on another binge.
    Any help, or suggestions would be welcome.

  28. Tricia 21 June, 2015 at 9:50 am - Reply

    Dear guys,

    I am sat on my messy flat, still stuck in dirty pjs. I see no respite happening with my drinking, oh yes can stop for reasonable period. Bring my life inta good space then whammo think its a great idea to drink. Always to excess usually on my own at home Usually a 3 litre box of 7.5 pc. My family are so sick of me. I am so frightened that I am going to die alone, unloved. Please help

    • AM 22 June, 2015 at 4:25 am - Reply

      Hi Tricia
      It’s not impossible for you to give up drinking you just need to believe you can. I feel like I’m on a slippery slop at the minute but I’m determined to get my drinking under control.
      I’m no alcohol councillor but I think first things first! Tidy up your flat & have a shower, then make yourself something healthy to eat. Straight away you’ll feel better.
      Are you part of any community groups or a church? You need to get some non judgemental people around you for support. If you find a good church you’ll find a lot of people there willing to love & support you. Don’t be put off if the first one you go to isn’t great.
      I can understand your families frustrations, we watch our dad kill himself with alcohol and nothing we said or did made a difference to him. I’m not going to do the same & neither are you! You can get through this & make them proud of you again!
      Please do as I’ve asked and let me know that you’re ok. I’m a Christian & my motto in life is ‘I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength!’ I’m going to trust in him to get me through & pray for strength for you to beat this habit!
      I’m going to try & keep busy & try to keep my mind off it!
      Loads of love
      Am xxx

    • Kristen 6 July, 2015 at 12:40 am - Reply

      Hi Tricia
      I’m just seeing your message now. I am struggling myself. So if you want to talk please let me know. You are not alone.

  29. Lu 19 May, 2015 at 10:15 pm - Reply

    My son is having issues because of his drinking. As soon as he gets home from work he starts drinking liquor all night. He has issues of child molestation, he is in the process of getting a divorce so he has many things to deal with. That’s why he drinks to forget all the problems. He hates himself and wants to stop but can’t, He refuses to go to a program. I worry about this and pray pray pray. That’s all we can do. He’s a great man and he is successful in his life…but he has this alcohol issue. I don’t know how to help me other than encourage him to stop and be there for him to talk. Prayers for all of you going through addictions. You have to know you are worthy of being happy and having a good life….drinking/drugs will not allow that.

  30. Kelly F 29 April, 2015 at 7:28 pm - Reply

    I went to rehab in 2002 and quit drinking for 11 years. I started again in 2013. I can feel it getting to the point where I’m soon not going to be in control. First, I only drank socially. Then I only drank on weekends. Then it turned into weekdays if we went out to eat. Now I’m drinking everyday. I drink up to 6 pack a day. I am not at the point where I’m blacking out or missing work or messing up my life but I know if I keep drinking I’ll end up there AGAIN. I called different places to just detox but with my deductible I’m looking at $2,500. I don’t have that kind of money. So, I’m going to see my family doctor on Monday and hopefully she can give me medication to help with the withdrawal symptoms since I did make a quit date of May 12th. That’s because I have a full week off work. I also made arrangements to go to a Christian support group since AA has not worked for me. The only thing I’m afraid of is detoxing at home. I’ll see house work like laundry, dishes, etc… and bills that need to paid, . I need to focus on me. I’ll get upset with my husband if I see a way he isn’t helping out. Plus, home is where I usually drink. Any suggestions? I thought about getting a motel room for a few days where there’s a pool and exercise room but I have no idea what kind of withdrawal I’m going to encounter.

    • greavsy 25 June, 2015 at 8:21 am - Reply

      I started drinking at the grand age of 42 im 50 now it was fun at first I paid £3’750 for private rehab stayed off it for 14 mnth but im back on it now I never had a day off for 4yrs I had no withdrawals what so ever still don’t get them its all in your head im diabetic type 1 so do I want die I ask myself every day I pour a glass of wine x

  31. sam 26 April, 2015 at 1:46 pm - Reply

    So much here rings a very loud bell for me. I binge and cannot stop once I start. Been doing this for many many years. I’ve done terrible things, nearly everything I regret links back in some way to drink. Its robbed me of so much. I’m so sick of being the drunk and the hangovers, self recrimination and wasted days, and the toil its taken on me and my lovely husband. I wish so many times I could drink ‘normally’ like him and prove countless times that I just can’t. But how I want to. I like drinking and associate it with so much like dinners, celebrations, confidence etc. Its so stupid when I know full well that there’s nothing to celebrate and its not pretty when you’re behaving badly/ are an embarrassment because once again you can’t control your drink. They say its insanity to keep on doing the same thing and expecting a different result, I must be insane. Like many I’ve stopped for periods and felt so much better. I am starting again today after a huge binge last night on wine, again. Im not saying anything to my other half or friends because Ive said it so many times and its become a joke. I want a sober life, I have to work on accepting I cannot drink. All the best to us all.

    • Andy 16 May, 2015 at 12:25 am - Reply

      Hi Sam, just gone in randomly on this thread after contacting Drinkline today about my own habit – your story sounds familiar, thanks for sharing it. I really don’t know how I’m going to cut down. Drinkline didn’t offer me anything – I think I need counselling but last time they didn’t treat me as a high risk. I really really connect with what you’re saying – I’ve got everything going great but this thing I used to be good at is getting the better of me. I think I just want to talk to people who understand.

  32. nicole 24 April, 2015 at 4:27 pm - Reply

    Man..Just read that whole thread. I feel for everyone. We can do this!! Don’t be afraid. Today is my first day not drinking. I quit using heroin almost a year ago after ten years. The withdrawal was so bad immediately I started substituting alcohol just to get thru my day. I’ve moved away from home and now my family is proud of me for quitting but don’t realize that now I just have a whole new problem. I’m sick of this shit. I’m 29 and have been doing drugs and drinking since 14. Withdrawl sucks but once you’re past it you think…jeez I should have quit years ago. So I am very determined to move on with my life and get healthy…losing some weight would be a nice bonus to as I’ve gained 15 pounds this year because of the drink. Anyway my prayers are with everyone. We are in this together.

  33. Anonymous 19 April, 2015 at 10:37 pm - Reply

    hi my husband drinking alcohol a lot what should i do to make him stop he doesnt wanna quit alcohol

  34. matt 14 April, 2015 at 7:31 pm - Reply

    Every time I drink now I get the urge for cocaine, it’s ruining my life I stop for a few weeks then spends hundreds of pounds in just one night that can lead to the whole weekend. This makes me feel so depressed going to work on the Monday knowing the naughtiness I have been up to plus the financial side. I really want to stop this evil alcohol and get rid of this Friday feeling. Any ideas people ?

  35. t morris 10 April, 2015 at 10:27 am - Reply

    Find it a struggle..lots of mates but cant tell them

  36. Gary 10 April, 2015 at 1:11 am - Reply

    I drink 6 cans of Stella Artois every night.. I work, feel fine in the morning, go all day without a drink. On my way home.from work I’ll grab a 6 pack. As soon as it’s 19:00-20:00 I crack open a Can and drink until 1am. Most times I’m not drunk, just have a little buzz. I’ve tried to quit many times, joined the local gym, but have mad nightmares, see things and feel restless. What do I actualy have to do?

    • greavsy 25 June, 2015 at 8:26 am - Reply

      your not a alcoholic gary your a dependent drinker like me a bottle of wine can last me 5hours iv saw proper alcoholics down 2 bottles in 10 minutes go your docs and ask for Librium hones to god it blocks the drink out your mind after 3 days its a wonder drug good luck anyway x

    • Tam 23 October, 2016 at 4:18 am - Reply

      Eh sorry but you are an alcoholic…….you have an adverse reaction to alcohol…..not for one moment am I suggesting you drink 24/7 but when you do drink you lose control and you are aware there’s a problem. An alcoholic is not necessarily someone who drinks huge amounts or who drinks quickly, it is someone who reacts badly to alcohol either mentally or physically, just like a diabetic has to be aware of sugar we have to be cautious around alcohol.

  37. Dom 8 April, 2015 at 2:54 pm - Reply

    I can go days or even weeks without a drink, however I struggle to have one or two. It seems the more I drink the thirstier I get. Once in a while I’ll drink so much that I black out or simply can’t remember how I got home, often losing things (briefcase, phone, coat, umbrella etc). I also develop a great urge to smoke whenever I have a few drinks.
    I would like to give up drinking but enjoy a few drinks so much, I just wish I had the self control to stop after a few, but I can’t remember ever having the ability to do so. Is there a way of doing this or must I bite the bullet and give it up completely?

  38. diane 3 April, 2015 at 4:15 am - Reply

    Hi i started drinking at the grand age of 42 im 50 now i didnt have a night off in 4 yrs it was fun at first i paid private for rehab i was in within the same day money talks, i lasted 14mnths sober and one day i went out i was ok for 2 hrs then i got a double southern comfort in my diet coke i felt on top of the world i bought a bottle of wine on the way home yes i was back to square 1 i have struggled for the past 2 yrs to get sober again i can go wks or mnths without one then i get the urge to drink again when i drink i have 2 botles of wine with a litre of diet lemonade iv been diabetic type 1 for 15yrs yes 7years before i became an alcoholic i survived cervical cancer in 2003 i should of drank then iv been through so much in my life and never turned to drink i dont understand why i started drinking in the first place it baffles me im 2 days in to my cold turkey iv had no shakes just insomnia and sweats hope i can do it this time

    • Dean Patrice 10 April, 2015 at 2:46 am - Reply

      If you wish to stop drinking alcohol altogether then fairplay. But what you have is not alcoholism, you should research how some others suffer before you start crying.

      • Anonymous 10 April, 2015 at 2:50 am - Reply

        I don’t consider myself to have a serious alcohol problem in relation to consumption. Although I can never seem to have a “casual” pint with friends as I’m always left feeling angry and upset when alone after. I know this can’t possibly be normal, but is it common?

      • mei 25 May, 2015 at 7:27 am - Reply

        Dean Patrice dont be a JERK because alcoholism can affect people differently. You are not right and i hope the person who wrote this comment knows it. It is hateful people like you who often ruin good people.

  39. Mark 25 March, 2015 at 1:16 pm - Reply

    Hi Im a 52 year old man and at the moment in a desperate state, I just cant seem to stop drinking. Another relationship has been sunk from my drinking and I cared for this person very much though people said she was an enabler!!. Ive known from my 20’s that i had a drink problem, in my 30,s i gave it up for nearly 7 years I had my wife and son then. Then came a triple whammy, Redundancy, a death in the family and my wife had an affair
    I went straight back drinking that was 8 years ago and I just cant seem to stop even after 3 rehabs. In this 8 years i have made some very bad decisions relationship wise and ended up broken from them. Ive been told get sober work on my self and stay out of relationships. This is hard I feel so bloody lonely all the time, my work means i spend a lot of time travelling and on my own. I cant do this any longer i cant change the past and im to old for this . God I need a miracle to help me im terrified to give it up .

  40. Paula 18 March, 2015 at 6:31 pm - Reply

    Hi everyone did not manage dry January . 3 days without a drink so feeling quite confident . Nearly had a drink at 2 pm had a row with partner even put money in pocket to buy sly half bottle but some how resisted so glad i did not . Really going to try hard , hopfully lose some weight , drinking makes one old and fat .good luck to every one in my position .

    • Lucy 31 January, 2016 at 2:22 am - Reply

      Well done !! Booze makes me skinny but I never eat though as I have chronic pancreatitis and only drink vodka and diet mixers I totally a mess . Keep going I wish I was sober I fell of the wagon after 7 years sober If I didn’t love my husband and daughter so much I would kill myself please keep going well done I hope soon I’ll be able to say I am sober again I need to look at Librium as that’s what got me sober 7 years ago I am so sad I started again I am I funny pass out drunk never had domestic violence etc ever ppl said to me in 7 years sober drink as 80% of the time I was suicidal again well done from Lucy

  41. Ashley 16 March, 2015 at 3:24 pm - Reply

    I have been struggling for about 4 months with trying to quit drinking after 13 years. I would stop for 2-3 days with the intention of eventually having the ability to have just 1 drink with dinner or at social events. After these 2-3 days, I would attempt to have that 1 glass of wine. Every time, I have failed miserably and end up blackout drunk. Thankfully, I was always at home with my husband so my blackouts didn’t put me in danger. My husband is able to have a drink or two and stop. As of today, I am 8 days sober. 8 days ago, I began taking Doterra essential oil vitamins and implementing essential oils into my life. I don’t know if it is just in my head, but these oils have taken my daily cravings down SO MUCH. I feel amazing and everyday it seems as though this new lifestyle of not drinking for the rest of my life gets easier and easier. Waking up without regrets or wondering what happened is now replaced with energy and healthy optimism. Let’s build each other up and look to the future! Forget the past that we dwell on. We have all made dreadful mistakes and regrets. It is not worth it to worry about yesterday. WE CAN DO THIS!

    • Jeanette 28 March, 2015 at 7:17 am - Reply

      Hi Ashley. Your account mirrors my life a lot. Me and my husband are binge drinking more and more and I have regular blackouts. We argue when we’re drunk and I say really hurtful things. I’m sick of waking up with the sick feeling of regret and crying with shame and promising ‘I’ll not behave like that again’. I’m scared I will lose my wonderful husband and scared my son will be left with a drunk for a mother.
      Today I have made the decision to not drink again and I’m looking for support but don’t want to go to an AA meeting as they seem a bit evangelical to me. Your essential oils sound interesting. Do you swallow them? And can you tell me where I can find them?
      Thank you.

  42. Ibra 13 March, 2015 at 11:27 am - Reply

    I am 30 years old and i am a student , I have been hard years. I lost my mom and when i drink i say bad words to my somefriends i lost them because they think i am so bad person. i feel tourable i cant live like human. i have a long story but i dont know how i can type it .
    please i need help

  43. Aut 7 March, 2015 at 9:29 am - Reply

    My mom is sad and thinks I need help. Whenever I drink I drink at home with my bf. I would consider us binge drinkers . I get angry when I drink and start unnecessary fights. I don’t know if I’m an alcoholic or not . Help !?

  44. Gary 4 March, 2015 at 1:11 pm - Reply

    My names Gary im 28

    I drink because it makes me less socially awkward and less anxious in life , then I drink too much and become the village fool .

    Im banned from around 50% of the night venues ive been to because my actions

    I get on Facebook and write stupid drunken shit to people , then wake up the next morning the worst and coldest feeling of regret which then turns to anxiety

    The other day I beat up my housemates friend because we had an argument and disagree, he ended in hospital with a broken eye socket and a broken nose and two broken ribs , I was that drunk at the time I didn’t think I hurt him , it took my housemate to stop me , god only knows what could have happened if he didnt . I wouldn’t be here writing this .

    That happened 6 days ago , im now 5 days sober.

    My wake up call

    Thanks for listening

  45. Anonymous 25 February, 2015 at 8:13 pm - Reply

    Hi I’m 24 years old I’ve been drinking since the age of 14 drinking everyday till I pass out my marriage is on the verge of divorce I can’t go without a day of drinking plus once I’m drunk I end up gambling a lot losing my pay don’t no how to quit both ending up in a lot of debts what can I do I love my wife don’t want to lose her

  46. Anonymous 20 February, 2015 at 8:26 pm - Reply

    Hello am 28 i started driking at the age of 18 this drinking of a thing makes me loose my education, future ambition, in fact my memory bcos of this I have no future partner, no woman want to stay with a drunkard. Like what can I do pls help me

  47. Anonymous 20 February, 2015 at 5:25 am - Reply

    Comment…thanxxx guys

  48. jordan 12 February, 2015 at 9:29 pm - Reply

    I have been drinking hard for years, then I suffered a break down and lost my family, but I just stopped and have no cravings for it, but my doctor said I shouldn’t just stop, I can feel my kidneys ache and my bladder is. Tight and struggle to wee, are things going to get worse, can it cause more damage just quitting

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