As a user of SMART Recovery techniques (and BE prior to launching myself into SMART), as well as a member of the SRUK "Big Team" due to go out training facilitators and Recovery Champions, several people have asked me write a bit on this thread for people who are just starting their journey. I would point out that I asked Tobin's permission to post SR stuff a while ago.
NOTE: SR (SMART Recovery) is just one of many methods to stop addictive behaviour, including but not limited to AA, Moderation Management, Intuitive Recovery, various Service Providers, and private counsellors (such as Tobin). Your choice is just that - your choice. SR works for me, BE was invaluable in the early days, neither may work for other people. I make no apology for copy/pasting a lot of stuff from the SRUK website, as its a structured sort of program.
About me: I'm 49 years old, feel 60 some days, 35 others. I was a 30-40 unit/day drinker for many years.
"SMART began in 1994 in the United States. It has grown into a worldwide network of self-help meetings, both face-to-face and online, where participants can get help from others in recovery. SMART operates as a non-profit organisation in many countries including the United States, the UK, Canada and Australia.
There is no single approach to recovery that is right for everyone. Research into various recovery methods and therapies suggests that mutual aid can help recovery and so can treatment – a combination of the two is probably even better for many people.
SMART Recovery helps participants decide whether they have a problem, builds up their motivation to change and offers a set of proven tools and techniques to support recovery. This is the SMART Recovery 4-point programme:
Building and maintaining motivation
Coping with urges
Managing thoughts, feelings and behaviours
Living a balanced life
People can stay with SMART as long as they wish. There is no requirement to make a lifetime commitment to the programme, just to their recovery and leading a healthier life. "That's it in a nutshell. What we do essentially is look at the "whys" of your addictive behaviours (clue there). That is - its not the fact that you've had a row with the wife, or you're down the pub with Eddie the Fish - its what your reaction to that event is. After all, that's about the only thing you can change most of the time....
But its one thing looking at your irrational responses to an event - once you've got that under control, Bob's your mothers live-in lover..... But is doesn't take away the cravings in the first instance - those "climbing the wall wanting a drink" feelings. Been there, done that. But learning to understand what they are, what they do, and putting them into perspective is all part of the journey. Its mentioned above that Urge Surfing is a technique - yep. The statement that urges and cravings gradually diminish is also true.
I could rabbit on for hours, but if you want more information, the SRUK website is in my sig, Jake also has it as a button on his profile. The Stateside version drops the .uk. If you can't get to a F2F meeting, there are online meetings Sunday and Wednesday (6:30/7:30 respectively) - you will need to register with the website, but like this site, use an alias if you want. On top of that, we decided that user data will not be recorded in the way a lot of forums record it - you are genuinely confidential.
SR is not some fly-by-night Mickey Mouse organisation - its being taken as a very serious alternative to 12-step in the recovery field (as required by the Roadmap to Full Recovery). Give it a go, there's no cost (well, bar a donation for tea & biscuits at F2F meets!), no obligation, no "you'll never get better" - just support and advice. No-one MAKES you drink but you.
I'm open and honest about all this - lots of people on here simply know me as Col (Colin).
Stay lucky, but never stay alone.
