We’ve now opened our free support forum for anyone with alcohol problems.
There are no expectations that you must be sober, it is just a community space where you can share your experiences and hopefully get some support from other people in a similar situation to yourself, whether you want to give up drinking completely, or if you just want to cut down.
You need only provide a valid email address to join - but this will never be displayed, so you can remain completely anonymous.
Hello Felicia, I have read your comments, I am going through the same as you. I drink every day, feel so tired, but do as much as I can to please my husband of 2yrs, we have known each other over 6yrs. Have tried different things, though have not had any prescription drugs or rehab. I was raped at early eighteen, and my brother killed himself at 22yrs when I was eighteen, he was 22yrs old. I lost my Father last year aged 74yrs old, my Mum divorced him when I was eleven, my Father was a long term alcoholic. I want to wish you well, and I will be thinking of you all at Christmas, I live in the UK, and again, I wish you all on the forum a lovely Christmas. xxxxxx
Just to make it clear for everyone, this is not the forum itself, but merely the blog post where we announced the forum had been opened.
Please click here if you would like to join the actual forum.
hi i am just joining this forum and would just like to say hello to everyone i have had a drink problem for nearly 30 years and although i have had periods of abstinence keep getting drawn back in at the moment i am again seeing a counsellor and giving it another try. i am hoping to keep dry if i can but i have tried so many times before. i have been off work due to alcohol and am going back on monday i am lucky to still have a job and have so far found it difficult even though i have been to aa may end up going back there anyway hope you all keep well
Felicia
You and I are twins. I am a victim of child abuse and rape also. I do the exact same thing to my guy and right now I am not with him. I no longer trusted myself. He and I met in recovery; him from drug use; me from alcohol use. I started drinking again one year ago and slowly got back to almost the place I was at when I stopped the first time. I was attempting suicide on a regular basis due to how hopeless and useless I felt. I really thought people would be much better without me here. Felicia; our brains lie to us. We hear negative tapes. Alcohol is a depressant and it promises to take away our pain but it only gives us more. I have made a decision to stop but I miss my “friend” and I gave in last night. I drove drunk and may have drunk dialled one of my daughters..I can’t remember. I feel horrible today.
Obviously I no longer want to do this. I am not drinking today. I know I can go without it because I did it for 4 years until last May. I felt great and I finally had some self esteem. If you can’t stop really give AA a try; it helped me the first time. I am so ashamed because I did go back 3 weeks ago and I didn’t keep going. Basically you have to stay connected and accountable or you will just talk yourself into drinking again until you learn to live without it. I wish you love; health and blessings Felicia. You are not a bad person; stop thinking you are! You deserve love; happiness and your creator made you for a purpose. I care about what happens to you Felicia…
take care; and don’t drink just for today
Jen
Hello,
I’m newer here and stopping in to say hi.
I hope everyone has a good day.
Jaeric
I am desperate to cut back on my drinking. I have inherited my father’s lack of a stop button. I can usually not start, but when I agree to have some drinks with my husband, I don’t know how to stop and always hurt him. I go to a dark place where I’m alone and he is the enemy and nothing he says can bring me back. It is ruining my otherwise wonderful marriage. Naturally I have a history of physical and mental abuse from my step father as well as having my worthlessness reconfirmed when I was raped at age 17. I have all but healed from all this until I drink too much and get sensitive to an otherwise trivial comment etc..Then I turn into a cold, selfish b*tch and push my husband away instead of being there for him to lean on. I keep drinking, convinced that it’s him! and get more and more defensive and beligerent until I storm off and sleep on a couch somewhere. I wake up ashamed and guilty for hurting him and he wakes up insecure and assured that I don’t love him. I am in love with him and don’t want to lose him. We’ve been together for 10 years and he has helped me tremendously with my emotions, why do I insist on bringing us to this dark place where I can only pray he will forgive me and we can rebuild. But experience says I am going to destroy it again. How can I get a grip?